Description: Why does communication in family so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? Linguist Deborah Tannen reveals why talking among adult family members so often leads to arguments and hurt feelings. Listeners can learn to separate the word meaning, or message, from the heart meaning, or "metamessage" -- the unstated but powerful meaning that comes from the history of our relationships in the family, where our hopes for caring and experience of criticism can painfully meet. Using real conversations from the lives of real people, Tannen shows how talk in a family is a high-wire act as we balance connection and power, struggling to get close without giving up freedom -- and shows how to improve relationships with family members throughout our lives.

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