Segell went searching for the causes of and solutions to this sexual stalemate. Most importantly, he searched for the ways a man can be the man he wants to be -- heroic and aggressive, yet loving and compassionate, successful in love and work with a wife who's similarly ascendant in love and work. In other words, how he can be a standup guy.
This book is about the changing world which has brought a new level of hostility between the sexes, but also a call for action to change that destructive dynamic. Through interviews with disaffected combatants on both sides of the gender war, participating in men-only groups like the New Warriors and the Promise Keepers, keen analysis of sexual manners, and boldly candid honesty about his own feelings and relations, Segell outlines a new masculinity.